Abby Advice: Wife overhears hubby’s insults

DEAR ABBY >> I am a wife and mother in my late 30s. I’m also a registered nurse, beginning a master’s degree program to advance my career.

My husband is also intelligent, and I’m proud of his accomplishments in his career.  However, he can be arrogant at times, giving the impression that he is smarter than everyone else around him — including me.

Today, I overheard him talking to his boss, whom he told about the master’s program I am starting in a few weeks. He then told his boss he would probably have to write some of my papers for me. I couldn’t believe he said that. First of all, it’s not true; I would never have anyone complete my work for me. Second, I found it insulting that he would say I need him to complete my assignments. (We are in different fields. He is an engineer.)

He didn’t know I was home when he said it, but I walked into his office as soon as I heard.  He looked startled and apologized, but I just can’t get over it. I feel so hurt and humiliated.  Is this what he tells his co-workers about me? How do I move on?

— Accomplished in Ohio

DEAR ACCOMPLISHED >> Your engineer husband’s ego may be threatened because you are becoming more academically accomplished. He may also have been trying to inflate his image in his boss’s eyes by casting you as “the little woman” when you caught him red-handed. Regardless of what he may say to others, your accomplishments speak for themselves. Don’t you forget that. As for how to move on, it may depend upon your willingness to forgive him for his frailties.

DEAR ABBY >> My son “Alex” and his girlfriend, “Dee,” lived together for eight years. We were all very close and did lots of family things together with my other son and his family.Alex broke up with Dee two years ago, although they continued talking for some timeafterward. We all hoped they would make up. He was under a lot of stress at the time andsuffers from depression and anxiety. He was sorry a month after the breakup, but Dee didnot want to get back together.

We have stayed in touch. She still skates with my daughter-in-law, and we met for brunch recently. Dee mentioned she met someone on an online dating site six months ago and it could get serious.

Should I let my son know? I think he still hopes they will be together.

— Protective Mom in California

DEAR MOM >> Dee told you she had met someone because she knew you would deliver the message to your son. If he has put his life on hold, hoping to reunite with her, he deserves to know it isn’t in the cards — so tell him.

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