Is a Pot stash grounds for divorce? See what Dear Abby says.

Pot stash grounds for divorce?

DEARABBY» My husband and I are going on 19 years of marriage and have three teenage girls.

We have had multiple rounds of marriage counseling, mostly with good results, although the benefits seem to be short-lived.

Most of our problems have stemmed from my husband’s drinking or smoking pot. He’s not abusive, he’s a good provider, but he just likes to get high.

Thank God it’s not often, but I’m not nor have I ever been OK with it.

Our girls recently found his pot stash and helped themselves. When I questioned them about where they got it, they admitted they found their dad’s stash. For me, this is the last straw. How can I teach my kids this is not OK when their dad’s actions say otherwise? I’m now made out to be the prude since apparently I’m “no fun.”

I’m a nurse, and even if it were legal in our state, I wouldn’t use it. I told my husband that I’m done and I’m ready for a divorce. He says I’m being ridiculous. Do I need to lighten up? I think I already know your answer, but I just need to see it to validate my feelings.

— Anti-drug Wife And Mom

DEAR ANTI-DRUG » Although marijuana may be legal in an increasing number of states, “supplying” drugs to minors is against the law in all of them. What happened cannot and should not be ignored, but ending a good marriage because your husband likes to use pot OCCASIONALLY seems extreme.

It’s time you and your husband form a united front, and he needs to find a better place to keep his stash.

DEARABBY» Because of the recent COVID-19 crisis, my wife and I, like so many others, have been stuck at home. I have asked her questions about former boyfriends and lovers. She told me some things, but when I bring it up now, she gets defensive and accuses me of belittling her and bringing back memories she has asked God to help her forget. I feel I am owed an explanation since they all took place while we were dating (including with my best friend) and with a house sitter after we were married. Am I wrong to bring it up after many years and a great marriage?

— Depressed in Texas

DEARDEPRESSED» Yes, you are wrong because this isn’t getting you anywhere positive.

While your wife’s poor judgment and infidelity are deeply regrettable, the two of you managed to build a life together and move beyond it. Accept it and use your quarantine time to do something more positive than playing “20 Questions.”

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  • Posted On: 1/12/2021 10:05:10 AM
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